Understanding how and why a bully uses aggressive behavior is key to knowing how to handle the situation.
Abusive or overly strict parents can cause kids to act out and continue the cycle of what they’ve learned at home.
A common reason that a kid is a bully is because he/she lacks attention from a parent at home and lashes out at others for attention. This can include neglected children, children of divorced parents, or children with parents under the regular influence of drugs/alcohol.
Older siblings can also be the cause of the problem. If they’ve been bullied, they are more apt to bully a younger sibling to feel more secure or empower themselves.
And we cannot rule out the fact that there are adult role models who are bullies. This can include parents, teachers, coaches, etc.
Sometimes the bullying behavior stems from a lack of discipline.
Parents must understand that they cannot be their child’s friend. They must be parents and use discipline when needed. Being your child’s role model is a lot more important.
While some parents don’t discipline their children for various reasons, it is important to note that kids crave discipline! They depend on your structure, rules and teaching them the correct path to take.
When kids aren’t disciplined, they will act out. And when discipline is not used, kids can develop behaviors to compensate for their maturity and insecurities.
Bottom line, bullies are insecure and use abusive behavior to feel empowered and secure.